friends…
people just come and go in our lives. we meet people, took to them, share a cup of cofi, or a good meal at some restaurants and even spend weekends out of town or even just for few bottles of malt over the weekends. not long then you woud realize that you have created a circle with this people and becomes your barkada. u can even have the so-called buddy in your circle whom you can fully open up, tok about your problems, be most comfortable with, and vice versa. but then, and so i check back my favorite line: "change is the only constant in this world…" so true indeed! people do change… we cant have all the best in life. those people who just passes bye would be gone forever, while some may come back nd just pass again, while some stay for a while, for a longer while. but mostly, they come and just go, no matter what the length of time theyve stayed in your life. in some instances, u would even loose your so-called best buddy of even ur bestfriends.
some things are just sipmly inevitable and so way out o our control that they slip right in our palms, and the next thing we know is that its gone for good even if we never wanted to loose it.
many factors contributes to such sad situations, but mostly, pride is the main culprit. if we only know how to recognize our mistakes and take responsibility over it and take actions in our initiative to resolve it, then maybe, just maybe, life could be little lighter and better. but our common tendencies is we find it dificult to say the simple word "SORRY"! as simple as that 5-letter word but it means more than 5m tons of effect. just utter that simple word and mostly, everything would be forgotten, life goes on, and retain the ggod friendship.
but of course, we ll think differently. we usually think first of ourselves… our pride! indeed it is best to keep our pride so people wont just simply step on our faces. but have you heard of the line: "everything in moderation is perfect, but everything in deficit or in excess is dangerous", or "too much of something is bad enough"? well, its pretty true, practicaly and politically right. yet, we tend to confide to the reasoning of " im just human, vulnerable to making mistakes"! if we retain such thinking and reasoning, then we’re doomed! we will never progress as a person.
i once had a friend, a very close friend who knew pretty much all about me, from my skin to my marrow, from my split-ends, to my in-grown (toe nails); who knew most of my problems, my worries and my heartaches; whom i considered my treasure box of secrets. weve been to so many sharp curves, bumpy roads and everything but the friendship persisted and kept. but not log then, we came to the end of the road. i never thought that the bumpy rides and sharp curves were over for good, but istead, it was the friendship that went over for good. sad as it my seem, but this is just part of the imperfections in our experiences that defines the perfection of the human life. again, we cant have all the best in life. we need these unpleasant turn of events to nurture our being as we continue with our journey through life.
i was saddened, i wanted to keep back the friendship. but what can one do if one is on a one-way ticket ride? we all now it takes two to tango, but now i can just let the music play, but i cant dance no more.
and then, the music came to an end, and so with the friendship….
the saddest thing was that, the tension wasnt just contained between us, but it also affected the rest of the circle. a chain was cut and it shattered the bond. th circle seems disperesed, and even if the rst of us tried to glue the pieces back together, the mark was there and can no longer be brought back to its original piece.
to my friend, i sincerely thank you for listening to me and spending time with me and the circle thru the hapi and not-so-hapi moments. thank you stayig in my life for a long while. thank you for everything. we now have taken our separate paths, meet new friends and live life the normal way. hope this time, life would be a little better, for it’l never be best…..
July 10th, 2006 at 11:34 pm
I never thought there could be a so-called “obituary for friendship”. Could it have been an obituary or was it deliberately and unfairly cut without due respect to the other person, thus killing the spirit of friendship? I was really appalled reading a nice yet long piece which, in the end turned out to be a “doleful” end.
People come and go. We shall be left with two options: thankful or regretful. Thankful, because we met a good soul who touched our lives, thus, leaving an indelible mark in our hearts. Regretful because dep within we chose to be sorry that we wished to undo things so that the person shouldn’t have came to our life. An aftermath of bliss or curse?
Pride/Ego hurts friendship. It counteracts humility and discerning on what went wrong and how-will-i-correct the mistakes options. Pride/Ego doesnt aim to heal wounds nor patch up the broken pieces. It defies reconciliation for it teaches anyone to be self-centered.
Friendship should transcend distance. It must be open-minded yet judicious. Afterall, real friendship is to be bound by mutual respect. If respect worns out, everything will be shattered.
We really couldnt please everyone. We have our own will. A free will which should comprehend the right and appropriate decisions to be taken.
Hope the pick u truly reflects what your heart says. God bless.
July 11th, 2006 at 5:15 am
Wow, mas na-amazed ako not by the message u wanna transmit but the way u expressed in writing. I told u, u had the talent Doc! As in lagi ako excited read mga blogs mo from the time i read the first one kasi ang galing mo talaga write! Pati to si Mark, magaling din magsulat, wish ko lang mana ako sa inyo dalawa,hahaha!!!
Hay naku, am just trying to lighten the sadness within this post..Basta ako Doc, I will be ur friend until my last breath…
July 11th, 2006 at 8:39 am
my T! It is but a sad fact that in our life, people do come and go. But let me tell you that it is always a choice to be made. Whether to fight and keep that relationship going or to simply douse the fire of friendship to put it to an end is simply a decision one has to make. What im trying to say is that you have made a choice and already made a farewell.Is this what you really want to happen? If you think the friendship is worth saving, go do something about it. If you fail, dont despair. Life’s like that. It is a roller-coaster ride of a journey. People make mistakes but we have a lifetime to make up for it! Reading what you just wrote made me think that you still care for that person. Your worry is…does that person still care for you? Does it really matter? If you love someone, whether he/she be a friend,a lover, a family, it doesnt matter if they love you back. Important thing is you do love them and care for them unconditionally. I thought i already told you that. So, keep that friend close to your heart, treasure the memories, both the good and the bad. Learn to smile through your tears for indeed life can be cruel but it can also be happy. Before i go, i leave you with a few lines taken from a song by M.W. Smith..”…and Friends are friends forever if the Lord’s the Lord of them and a friend will not say never coz the welcome will not end. Tho it’s hard to let you go in the Father’s hands we know…that a LIFETIME’s not too long to live as friends…”
July 11th, 2006 at 9:08 am
ang picture send dy na ko.mag wild ko karon .hehehe ayaw serious diha.lol
July 11th, 2006 at 3:11 pm
nganong inana imung post?
heheheh!! ANG PICTURE NAKO!!!
July 12th, 2006 at 10:46 pm
nice piece in here. i thought this is one of sidney shieldons stories. just a summary though about friendship to keep u flipping throughout the pages of the book. indeed dr crane such a nice realization about friendship. it was more than impressive and remarkable. but what makes it more appealing to the reader was ur ability to delivered it well accompanied with such emotions. every person is inddeed responsible 4 their actions. but as u said, it may jus be a 5 letter word, but the effect would really be somethin.(the word SORRY) extraordinary i WOULD say!… its really sad how ur friendship with ur friend turned out to be somethin really exruciating such as this. but u cant do anythin about it… at least u did ur part! (or did u really do ur part in saying sorry?) weigh things out dr crane!.. dont try to abandon the friendship simply bcoz of pride.. u can do better than that!… ure smart, intelligent, got breedings so use it to save the friendship. but if it would still fail, leave it out to god. its not ur fault anymore!… aight? but at least one day in ur life u would be able to realize that u really exerted effort to save the friendship!… and at the end of the day, youll be more than satisfied and happy living ur own life withoud being bugged and pestered by ur conscince!… ingat and godbless…! to say that am really impressed with this blog? nah, that would be an understatement!… u tc in there…
July 16th, 2006 at 2:13 am
life is so unfinished like books and movies… sad but true enough
July 16th, 2006 at 9:03 pm
ayawg drama dnha..wa ra ba ko yaya ..hehehe balo ko mokanta ato g quote na song n stan.ayaw pag seneryos k wa ko naanad,friends na ra ba ta
July 19th, 2006 at 11:07 am
dong murag kahibaw man ku kinsa na hahahaha…anyway i know things will get better someday! before u know it everything gets back to what it used to be. kani gyong pride ba hahaha…sala sa pride!
July 19th, 2006 at 12:30 pm
Murag ako man tingale iyang gipasabot Win… Hmmmmm… Pero wala man ko idea sa iyang gi ingon nga “to my in-grown (toe nails)”… Tsk… Basig si… Uhmm… Storya lang nya ta tot ah…